Hello Dear,

I’m José. A massage and Tantra teacher, but more than that, someone who’s been through the same struggles many gay men face—feeling lost, disconnected, and unsure of where I truly belonged.

In my early 20s, I had everything society told me I should want—a stable job in the oil industry, a girlfriend, a house. But inside, I felt restless, anxious, and out of place. Something was missing. At 23, I took a leap of faith. I left everything behind in Brazil and moved to Ireland, hoping to figure out who I really was.

The journey wasn’t easy. While I found freedom in accepting myself as a gay man, I also faced moments of deep loneliness, panic attacks, and depression. I searched for connection in all the wrong places—casual encounters, sex apps, even substances—trying to fill a void that just wouldn’t go away.

It wasn’t until I discovered Tantra and massage that things truly changed. Through touch, breath, and presence, I learned to reconnect with my body, my emotions, and my sexuality in a way that felt whole, instead of fragmented. Tantra helped me break free from the shame, fear, and self-doubt that had been weighing me down for years.

Since then, I’ve traveled across the world, learning from some of the most respected massage and Tantra schools—Holistic College Dublin, International Thai Massage School, True Tantra, and Somananda Tantra School.

I see so many gay men struggling the way I did—stuck in cycles of disconnection, chasing intimacy through quick fixes that never truly satisfy. We live in a world that often teaches us to separate sex from emotion, body from soul. But I believe there’s a different way—a way to experience intimacy that’s real, fulfilling, and deeply healing.

That’s why I do this work.

I want to help other gay men break free from shame, anxiety, and limiting patterns, and find deeper, more meaningful connections—not just with others, but with themselves. Through Tantra and conscious touch, we can relearn what intimacy really means.

So, how ready do you feel? 😊